Anxiety About Leaving Home

Going away to college is a big step. You are leaving home for the first time and it will likely be the first time you are away from your family and friends for an extended period. You will no longer have your parents to keep after you to do your homework or to clean your room. It is a big change that carries with it a big responsibility. It is an exciting time, but it can also lead to a lot of anxiety.

First, you need to know that it is okay to be scared or nervous. It is normal to have these feelings when you are leaving for a new place and a new life. You also need to realize that you are not alone. There are tons of students that are going through the same thing. It is a large step and it can be scary, but it will definitely make you stronger as a person.

While this change in your life will be hard, there are things you can do to help with the anxiety. One thing you should do is prepare. College orientation is a great way to do this. You will see your new surroundings, meet your roommate, and begin to see your life in a different place. Also, practice becoming more independent over the summer, before you leave for school. Begin to do things by yourself that you would normally have help with. For example, maybe your parents always fill your car up with gas or get the groceries. Try doing these by yourself. These things may sound little, but slowly becoming independent will help you with the transition.

Next, make a list of things that are troubling you. Approach each item one at a time and figure out steps you can take to alleviate the pressure. Looking at your problems one at a time will help you from becoming overwhelmed.

Finally, talk to someone. It does not necessarily need to be ‘professional’ help. Perhaps you would feel better if you talked to a friend who is going through the same move. Maybe talking to your parents would help ease the burden. Just talk to someone. Getting your thoughts off your chest can be a great way to help with anxiety.

If these steps are not enough, seek further help. Find a counselor who can help you. There is no reason why your anxiety should keep you from having an enjoyable college experience.


Last Updated: June 21, 2021